I have been serving this eggnog for over 20 years and every year it receives high compliments. Leave the chemistry experiment in the dairy case at your local grocer–make your own nog this year!
Makes: 10 4 oz servings
Chill 4 to 24 hours before serving
8 beaten egg yolks
2 cups milk
1/3 cup sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 cup whipping cream
1/8 tsp ground cloves
1/8 tsp ground cinnamon
2 tablespoons sugar
3-5 whole cloves (Optional)
1 cinnamon stick (optional)
In a large, heavy saucepan mix the egg yolks, milk, and the 1/3 cup sugar. Optional: add the cloves and cinnamon stick for spicier eggnog. Cook and stir over medium heat until mixture just coats a metal spoon. Remove from heat. Remove cinnamon stick and cloves. Place the pan in a sink or bowl of ice water and whisk rapidly for 2 minutes. Stir in vanilla. Cover and chill for at least 4 or up to 24 hours.
Just before serving, in a mixing bowl mix the whipping cream and the 2 tablespoons sugar, the ground cloves, and ground nutmeg. Beat until soft peaks form. Transfer chilled egg mixture to a punch bowl. Fold in the ¼ of the whipped cream mixture. Serve at once. Add a dollop of the whipped cream to each serving. Sprinkle with nutmeg. Makes about 10 (4-ounce) servings.
Add spiced rum or brandy to each serving as desired.
With Thanksgiving preparations well under way, I decided to take a moment to relax with a cup of coffee and a delicious homemade cookie. It’s been a long year with more bumps than joy, but even so, I do have plenty to be thankful for.
I am thankful to be alive. Having come too close to death this year, I really am grateful for all of the trials and sorrow that life brings with it.
~~Without the trials we cannot truly know victory.
~~Without the sorrow we cannot truly know joy.
I am thankful for my family. I have a kind, loving, and considerate husband. In just a few days we will celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. Sometimes I just can’t believe that I have known this man for 20 years. I have two beautiful and intelligent children who have brought me laughter (and tears), Pride (and shame), and so much joy.
I am thankful for my fur babies. Liberty, our German Shepherd/Golden Retriever mix, brings calmness and security to our happy little home while Maggie, our Border Collie/Schnauzer mix, brings laughter and fun to our happy home. They were my nurse maids–always at my side–while I was recovering from my illness this year.
I am thankful for my parents. They taught me to be an independent woman and a free thinking individual.
I am thankful for my sister. She is my closest friend.
I am thankful for all of the wonderful friends I have had the pleasure to know.
And finally, I am thankful for all of the little things in life. You know–that hot cup of coffee in the morning, the flowers that bloom in the spring, a good book to read, doggie kisses, and so much more. These are the things that get me through the tough times and the mundane of daily living.
I am truly blessed.
I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday surrounded by the people you love most.
I am alive. I am so very glad that I can say that because I nearly died this year. Having a genetic condition that nearly killed me in June made me face reality—Life is but a fleeting moment in time. We all know this on some level. Some of us have had either friends or family die from disease, accidents, or self-inflicted causes. Some of us have had friends or family die from old age. Either way—we know that life is short. But, not all of us have faced our own mortality. Not all of us have said to our children and spouse “I love you” while lying on the floor, thinking “this may be the last time I say those words.”
If you have the time, I’d like to share my story with you. But first, you will need to understand the genetic condition from which I suffer—or just skip it and get to the dying part if you prefer. I will be brief on the specifics of the disorder.
I have a genetic disorder called Hereditary Hemorrhagic Telangiectasia (HHT) that affects about 1 in every 5,000 people. It is an indiscriminate disorder that affects all genders, races, and ethnicities.
HHT is a mutation of the genes that are responsible for the growth pattern of arteries and blood vessels. As most of you know, there are two types of blood vessels: arteries and veins. Arteries carry blood under high pressure (pumped from the heart) and veins carry blood under low pressure, back to the heart. An artery does not usually connect directly to a vein. Usually there are very small blood vessels called capillaries that connect an artery to a vein.
A person with HHT has a tendency to form blood vessels that lack normal capillaries between an artery and vein. This means that arterial blood under high pressure flows directly into a vein without first having to squeeze through very small capillaries. The place where an artery is connected directly to a vein tends to be a fragile site that can rupture and bleed. A blood vessel that is abnormal in this way is called a telangiectasia (tel-AN-jee-eck-TAZE-ee-ya) if it involves small blood vessels. Telangiectasias most commonly occur on the skin of the face, hands, and the lining of the nose and mouth. The telangiectasias on the lining of the nose cause recurrent nosebleeds—the most common symptom of HHT. An abnormality that involves a larger blood vessel is called an arteriovenous malformation (AVM). Some people with HHT will also have AVMs in one or more organs. AVMs occurring in the lungs and brain and can lead to serious complications.
I have had an AVM on my tongue burst in the past, and knew how to judge when one was getting large enough to burst. Three years ago, I was denied treatment for an AVM on my tongue that I knew would burst within the next few years.
I guess both the Doctor and HMO (Tricare) wanted to pass me along to someone else. In the military, we move an average of every 3 years. When something is wrong that a doctor doesn’t know how to treat, they can easily ignore you, knowing that eventually you will move and become someone elses problem.
I was right. In early April of this year (2014) the AVM on my tongue burst. At first, it bled for maybe 20-40 minutes every day. About one week later I had an episode of bleeding that lasted for over an hour. My husband drove me to the nearest ER in Amberg, Germany. The language barrier made the whole ordeal much worse as we tried to explain that I had a bleeding condition and not an injury. After much conversing, gesturing, and google translating, a doctor finally understood what was wrong with me. Germans use the old name, Olser Weber Rendu, for HHT. They simply call it Osler’s. However, that didn’t make much of a difference, because I was told that they could not treat me there and that I needed to go to Regensburg instead—that’s about 1.75 hours away! Well, the bleeding finally stopped while I was at the hospital and they sent me home.
I tried to make a doc appointment with my primary care physician, but because the Army is so understaffed, I could not get an appointment because a bunch of soldiers had just returned from Afghanistan. “Soldiers first” was all I heard from the appointment line operator for two weeks. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, hateful, or even disrespectful, but in this case I think I should have come first! The soldiers were getting post-deployment check-ups. It’s not like they were sick, dying, or injured!
Once again, I was passed along by not only the doctors at Amberg Hospital, but also by the clinic on post.
Though my tongue bled off and on for a few weeks afterward, I gave up on seeing the doctor. The bleeding finally stopped entirely in early May—for a short time anyway.
Because of the frequent bleeding, I became anemic. Not terribly severe, but anemia is never a good thing. I continued to go on as if nothing was really wrong—wrong choice.
As I Lay Dying
In mid-June, the AVM on my tongue started to bleed a little. It got progressively worse every day for 4 days. On Thursday, June 19, 2014, my tongue began to bleed substantially at around 7am. I used an entire roll of VERY absorbent paper towels to try to stop the bleeding. I can honestly say that Viva paper towels are the best on the market. I held the paper towels onto the top of my tongue and squeezed, trying to create a clot. The paper towels became soaked through and useless before a clot could form. After about 2 hours, I gave up and just let it flow—swallowing and spitting out blood for another 2 hours. Remember, this is an AVM, which means that it is arterial blood under high pressure pumping through a smaller vein—in other words; the flow was steady and squirting with every beat of my heart. You may be wondering why I did not go to the ER after 2 hours. I didn’t bother for two reasons:
1) I thought it would stop eventually, and I assumed that it would most likely stop in the ER like it did before.
2) The doctors told me that they could not treat my disorder and as far as I could understand, I was not to go back for treatment of my AVM.
After 4 hours of steady bleeding, I started to feel light-headed. I called my husband and told him that I needed to go to the hospital. At this point, I was starting to get scared. I figured that at the very least, they could give me blood if I needed it.
My husband happened to be on the other side of the tank trail—30 minutes away. The situation rapidly worsened within 15 minutes of my initial call to him. I was half way up the stairs to gather a few things for the trip to the hospital when I suddenly became nauseous, dizzy, and my vision became fuzzy and spotted. I was suddenly hot and broke out in sweat. I sat on the stair landing and leaned against the wall with my eyes closed. I told my daughter, Erin, to call her father and tell him that I needed an ambulance. I noticed at this time that I had finally stopped bleeding.
Being the spouse of the NCOIC (Non-commissioned Officer in Charge) of the DES (Department of Emergency Services) is quite a benefit. Neither my daughter nor I knew the “911” number for Germany.
Lesson: Memorize the emergency services number immediately upon moving to or visiting a foreign country!
My husband called the Desk Sgt. and told him to request a paramedic.
Meanwhile, as I sat on the stair landing, I suddenly had the urge to pee. So, I gathered all my strength to descend the 6 steps and walk 5 feet to the bathroom. I made it to the bathroom entrance—and immediately collapsed.
The linoleum felt so nice and cool. It felt good to lay on that cool linoleum with my eyes closed. I wasn’t afraid. The pain ended. I could sleep and it was good. Somewhere in the distance, as if at the other end of a long tunnel, I could hear a voice.
I opened my eyes and saw my daughter standing over me. She is so brave, I thought. She is so calm. I wanted to get up, but I had barely enough energy to lift my head, which caused too much dizziness.
This is the moment when I realized that I might be dying.
I wanted my kids to know that I loved them. I wanted to tell my husband that I loved him. I wanted them to know it was okay that I was dying and I was not afraid.
My husband arrived just minutes before the paramedics.
They were all there. My husband, my son, and my daughter.
“It’s not so bad,” I said. “Dying isn’t so bad.”
I told them that I loved them.
The paramedics arrived. They took my blood pressure and oxygen saturation levels. My bp was 74 over 50 something. I think my My oxygen saturation was 90%.
I am no longer sweating. I am not hot. I am cold. So cold.
I no longer had enough energy to talk to anyone. I was tired. I wanted to sleep.
I was not and am not afraid of what comes after death, but before this experience, I was afraid of the dying part. I am no longer afraid of the dying part of death.
Dying isn’t so bad.
As you can see in the chart above, a bp rate of 74 over 50 something is VERY bad. The EMT arrived and I was quickly moved from the bathroom floor to the ambulance.
Thinking back on that day, I am certain about one thing—I do not want to die on the bathroom floor!
The EMT’s were concerned enough that they had a doctor flown in a helicopter to my house. That helicopter landed in the field behind my house.
I really wish I had a picture or video of that.
My daughter told me that my neighbors all stood out back, watching the helicopter land. One of my less tactful neighbors made a joke about it, and my daughter turned to him and said “that helicopter is for my mom” while giving him the evil eye.
The EMT started an I.V. solution for dehydration and to add fluids into my veins and arteries.
The bleeding only stopped because there was not enough pressure to pump the blood out through the AVM.
I vaguely remember the trip to the hospital in the ambulance. I vaguely remember those first couple of hours in the emergency room. I was so very tired.
Over the course of the next 5 hours, my bp rate slowly increased thanks to the I.V. solution.
The diagnosis was hypovolemic shock.
Hypovolemic shock, also called hemorrhagic shock, is a life-threatening condition that results when you lose more than 20 percent (one-fifth) of your body’s blood or fluid supply. This severe fluid loss makes it impossible for the heart to pump sufficient blood to your body. Hypovolemic shock can cause many of your organs to fail. The condition requires immediate emergency medical attention in order to survive. Source
I was told that if emergency services had arrived any later or waited too long to begin the I.V. solution, I could have died.
I may not have been as close to death’s door as I thought, but that is as close as I want to be until I am an old woman.
I vaguely remember the ambulance ride to the hospital. What I do recall is the EMT trying to keep me awake. He spoke clear English with a lovely German accent. It was soothing, but persistent enough to keep me awake. I also recall a lecture about waiting too long to go to the hospital. I promised him that I would never wait more than an hour, to which he replied—“no. you go right away. You have lost too much blood. An hour is too long.” So I promised him that I would not wait at all and I would go to the ER immediately if the AVM bled again.
Here’s another thing that I learned through this experience:
It is true that near-death experiences make the world seem brighter (i.e., colors are more vibrant). It makes food taste better. It makes every moment precious. It makes one re-evaluate their life and their goals for the future. It is also true that after a while colors are normal, food is food, and every moment is not as precious.
What is not true: your life does not flash before your eyes.
Recovery and Surgery
At the hospital, doctors and nurses swarmed me. I honestly do not recall much of what happened. I was admitted to the hospital. The staff wheeled me to an elevator. I think we exited on the third floor, but I am not certain.
It amazes me how different hospitals are in Bavaria as compared to the ones in the States. My room was stark. It was cold too. Though that is not uncommon in most U.S. hospitals, the most noticeable difference was the crucifix on the wall.
Though I am not Catholic, I must admit that this little plastic crucifix gave me hope, comfort, and a feeling that everything would be okay. It reminded me to pray and give thanks to God that I was still breathing.
I admit that germans know how to make a person cozy. The pillow and comforter were stuffed with feathers! Once the radiator was turned up and I was snuggled into that feathery softness, I was warmer and felt pampered. Sleep was coming for me, and I was grateful.
I will not bore you with the all of the crazy details, but I did eventually see a slew of doctors over the next 2 months. After lots of work, the wonderful staff at the Tricare office secured the best care possible. I had an echocardiogram, an endoscopy, and an MRI.
I have a Pulmonary AVM, and a small AVM on my duodenum (the first section of the small intestine).
Though I am not currently at risk of internal bleeding, I know that eventually—when I am much older—these AVM’s will bleed.
In August I had a laser treatment on various telangiectasias in my mouth and nose as well as the large AVM on my tongue (plus a smaller AVM on the tongue).
This is what I ate for two days while in the hospital.
That porridge looking stuff was absolutely disgusting!
The recovery was long. Iron supplements and healthy eating were imperative. I lived on homemade protein yogurt smoothies for the first 2 weeks and then slowly added soups, stews, and soft foods such as mashed potatoes to my diet.
It was months before my iron levels, red blood cell count, and plasma were normal. I lost about 20 pounds from my inability to eat much in the way of solid foods between April and September.
It was not all terrible though. I did manage to have some fun before my surgery. I attended the German-American Volksfest the weekend before my surgery. I drank lots of nutritious German beer and ate plenty of bratwurst.
I finally have the same energy levels as I did before the bleeding started and am ready to get back to a normal life of DIY projects and exploring Germany.
I hope you will join me for my next project–the guest bathroom make-over on a $20 budget.
If you made it to the end of this post, Thank you! I know it was long and tedious at parts, but I just felt the need to tell you why I have not been around, and to let you know that dying really isn’t so bad.
When I ask my son, “how do you want your new room to look?” his reply is, “Meh, I don’t care.”
And yet, twice now he has shown me concept rooms and artwork at Ikea that he likes. Decorating for this boy has been a challenge because he has so many interests. He loves WWII history, Science, Comics, some new weird music that I don’t get, and Formula One racing.
It doesn’t all fit together, and he seems to prefer an industrial/modern style with bright (mostly) primary colors.
So, I took his lead by creating a design using his favorite piece of art that he purchased with his own money from Ikea about 2 years ago.
From this one item (and a similar print from Ikea that he likes) I came up with this room design:
1. Inspiration Art work from Ikea. The telephone picture is no longer available, but the Solmyra (I call it Shhh) is sold at most Ikea stores.
2. Task Lighting. The rooms here are DARK! The ceiling lights do little more than cast a dull glow. My son loves to read in bed, so I will mount two of these Kvart wall lights above each night stand.
3. Malm Bed. Though the photo shows the white twin bed, it is also available in gray–which is what we will buy (eventually). Malm beds come with either a high or low headboard. We want the higher headboard so that he can lean against it comfortably.
4 and 5. Malm dresser and night stand. Ikea has several styles of dressers available in the Malm series, but my son only needs a small one.
6. Micke Desk. We love the Micke series! They are durable, yet cheap inexpensive. It’s the perfect desk for a small room. He will be getting his first computer in September, so this is a must have item.
7. Ikea PS magnet board. This is another must-have…simply because he requested it. This PS magnet board is an inexpensive way to display pictures, memos, or doodle ideas.
8. Snille desk chair. These Snille chairs are very affordable, and surprisingly comfortable. They come in several colors including basic black or white.
9. PS Vago chair. My son absolutely LOVES this Vago chair. He said that all it needs is a comfy pillow and he could sit in it for hours. I had trouble removing him from this chair on the showroom floor and felt kinda bad that I didn’t buy it immediately. Besides, doesn’t every teen boy need a “lounge” chair of his own? The chair comes in red, blue, yellow, black, and white.
Some other items that I want to add are a picture rail, colorful frames, and the Bygel rail series.
I’d like to throw in one or two of these, but that might be pushing it a bit…
I would just like to take a moment to honor one of the greatest women of our time: Maya Angelou.
I was first introduced to “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” in high school. The images of her traveling by train with her brother as still as vivid today as they were when I first read the story.
I started reading her poetry when I was about 18 and still re-read her poems today. She is not only a refined writer, but she is also a woman who used her talents to bring change–for the better that is.
Though many of her poems focus on her race, they tell the truth about any person who has had to struggle in a racially and ethnically challenged environment.
As a woman, her poetry speaks to my desire for complete equality, but not at the expense of destroying men as many modern feminists preach.
She was (and always will be) a woman of grace, a woman of morals, and a woman of peace.
Thank you Ms. Angelou for the many years of work, service, and love that you brought to the world.